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How to get over first dance nerves

A first dance is supposed to be a wedding day highlight, the moment when you and your beloved lead your guests onto the dancefloor for the first time as a married couple. But for some people, the thought of having to bust any kind of a move, even a very slow one, in front of an audience, is terrifying. Not everyone is a natural dancer and many people prefer to stay away from the spotlight. So what do you do if the idea of your first dance is filling you with dread?

Keep it simple

Just because YouTube has popularised complex and out-there dance moves doesn’t mean you need to follow the trend. There’s absolutely nothing wrong with a slow dance – it’s more about how you feel than how you move your feet.

Take lessons

Even if you’re planning to shuffle back and forward on the spot, a couple of dance lessons can be a great way to boost your confidence if you’re rhythmically challenged. It’s also a fun way to spend time with your other half before the big day, especially if wedding stress is getting on top of you.

Pick the right song

If you pick a song you both really love, you’re more likely to get lost in the music and forget about your loved ones watching you. Just make sure to listen to the lyrics to make sure that they’re wedding appropriate!

Invite everyone up at once

If you really can’t bear the thought of all eyes on your first dance, have the DJ or toastmaster ask everyone to join you on the dancefloor instead. You can still have a first dance without having to be in the limelight.

Focus on each other

While it’s natural to feel nervous about your first dance, don’t forget what it’s actually about – you and your significant other. If you’re feeling anxious, use your partner as an anchor. Getting lost in the moment is what it’s all about, after all!

It’s your wedding day – so make sure that you’re happy and comfortable with whatever you choose to do and don’t worry if you’re not going to be winning Strictly any time soon, nobody will notice!